Hear me out.
Self-care isn’t the same for everyone.
Self-care is self-love: it means to love ourselves through our actions, words and thoughts.– Claudia-Sam
I’m a believer in living “selfishly”. If we are unable to love ourselves, how can we expect others to love us?
If we do not take time to prioritize ourselves, how do we expect to attract those who will?
If we constantly give excuses and justify ourselves for our actions, it means we don’t accept ourselves in return.
When we are too engaged in The Doing” Game, we end up always using excuses. Here are some examples:
“I got stuck in traffic and gosh this guy was so slow in front of me on the road”, and…
“My kids don’t understand it when we are in a hurry which is why I’m late!”. We basically give right to Time to rule our day.
Because one thing you have to know is that Time is an illusion. We have allowed it to succumb our life and submerge in it.
You might say: “But we have no choice.” And I say… it depends on how you see Time and how you can use what you think of It.
Have you ever heard that taking time for yourself will actually stretch out Time? This is true. Hear me out.
If you take even 5 minutes to connect with your breath, with the present moment, away from worry and only with what is real for you, you allow your mind to feel safe in a state of worryless-ness.
This means that, by waking up 5, 10, 15 or more minutes before the time you are used to, and by calming down your nervous system, you might not feel such pressure of having to be “on time” for work. You might also stop not-accepting yourself and therefore stop justifying yourself. If you don’t want to wake up earlier, maybe it means switching what you normally do for 5, 10 or 15 minutes and connect within instead.
Nothing changes if nothing changes ok?
Doing this will help your body feel into the knowing that you are safe, and that calm is your natural state. You won’t be yearning to fight internally for not wanting to be judged for being late at work, for example.
You know, and I say this with the most love possible… it’s not always about you.
If you care so much about being on time, you will be. If you care so much about yourself and your wellbeing, you will love yourself and you will emanate an energy that is contagious. You will stop justifying yourself because you. won’t. need. to. Especially because, the more you complain, compare and justify yourself, the more you give others the right to do the same about you. This behaviour is in alignment with fear and negativity.
I hope this makes sense.
To help you understand where you are in relation to self-care, below are some questions you can use to reflect on:
What if you stopped justifying yourself? Would others’ response towards you be different? This means, if you accepted yourself through the forgetfulness and the disorder, or through the trials and errors, would they?
What if you allowed yourself to believe that they would accept you and stop caring what they think?
Do you believe you are worthy of self-care and time for yourself?
If you do, have you taken time to fill yourself up with what makes you feel good, with what allows you to be in joy and freedom daily?
If not, why not? What is blocking you from taking even 5 minutes a day for yourself? And is that reason the truth?
I’d love to hear how what you do for self-care or what you will do, soon, by replying to this blog post.
Have a beautiful rest of your day filled with calmness and inner joy.